Everyone is unique and will be affected in different ways. Each person may have had their own relationship with the person who has died by suicide. There is no set way to grieve or cope, this is individual. Counselling can support you.
Emotions that are Commonly Felt could be:
- Anger. Defensiveness. Depression. Anxiety. Despair. Stigma. Shock. Shame…
- Questioning. “Why” “What if…?”
- Rejection. Guilt. Relief. Numbness. Fear. Vulnerability. Disbelief. Emptiness. Sadness. Searching…
- A Physical Reaction…
- Sense of acceptance
- Suicidal thoughts
What might help?
- Expressing your thoughts and feelings; have people around you that will listen.
- Make opportunities to remember, talk about the person, share photographs and memories.
- Put your feelings on paper.
- Look after yourself.
- Make a memorial or light a candle.
- Continue to do things you have previously enjoyed.
- Have a change of scenery, go for a walk, visit friends and family.
- Surround yourself with support from others.
- Talk, and learn how others have dealt with and experienced loss.
- Develop an Emotional first aid kit; collect together some things that could help when you are feeling sad or mad. For example, music, tissues, chocolate, a pillow to punch, a cat to stroke or a friend to hug.
Can Counselling help?
Counselling can help by providing an impartial, non judgemental, empathic and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings with an experienced professional.
We can take some time through your individual process of loss and grief…
About the Author:
I have many years of experience counselling individuals, young people and couples, supporting them through their various struggles. I hope this article is of some help to you.
BACP Accredited Counsellor Manchester